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Your toddler is playing with his toys and all of a sudden picks up and throws the picture frames and baby photo albums. They are now broken. What do you do? When you toddler does something wrong you need to act immediately and communicate this directly with her on the spot. At this stage toddlers often have memories of a goldfish so they will forget about it and will be disconnected if you don't point what they did wrong immediately. Therefore it is imperative you handle the situation right away so your toddler can connect her misbehavior with the consequences. Here are five simple steps to handle this situation and has worked the overwhelming majority of time.
1. Go straight to your toddler but don't run over unless there is immediate physical dangers otherwise. Don't raise your voice or outright shout from across the room.
2. Get down to his eye level so you do not intimidate his with your height and size. With eye contact and close proximity he can not pretend to ignore your command from above or from across the room.
3. Hold your toddler by the arms firmly but not too hard so he can not run away. Say and repeat if necessary, please look at my eyes, if he tries to turn away.
4. Adopt a gentle yet firm voice in an authoritative tone. Remember to not use an angry tone, a belittling tone or a pushover/bargaining tone. This authoritative tone will communicate to your toddler that you are serious and leaves no doubt that you are upset.
5. Tell your toddler in a clear and calm voice exactly what he has done wrong such as breaking things are not allowed. You do not break things. I do not want you to do this again please." And wait for a response. Repeat this statement and end with an, "Okay?" Hold him until he confirms with an okay of his own. Then give a warm hug and let go. Time to return to normal activities.
This simple five step process will most often do the trick. Toddlers are experts and watching subtle signals and any sense of weakness from your end will cause your child to protest or ignore you. Many parents find this assertive, authoritative voice hard to come by but it can and must be learned so you can teach your toddler what is wrong. Blissliving offers thousands of products to meet your toddlers' needs including kids furniture, kids wall art, and childrens rugs. Blissliving also has thousands of products for you such as mother's jewelry and designer diaper bags. | 
